If you follow me on Twitter, you will probably have figured out that my fiancé Joe and I have been in a long distance relationship for some time. In fact, we’ve been living 1100 miles apart for six months. Joe came back home to visit last week so I took some time away from blogging to be with him.
After struggling to find a job here in his career field, Joe expanded his search out of state. Within a couple months of me starting my first full time career position out of college, Joe landed a full time position in Louisiana. As you could imagine, chaos ensued. I was flooded with all sorts of emotions and questions. What’s it like to live in Louisiana? How hot does it get in the summer? Will we be happy there? Do I have to leave my job? Where will I work? Where will we live? Will Joe consider moving back to Wisconsin? What about our families?
Trying to figure out what to do and what would be best for us was one of the hardest things we’ve ever had to decide as a couple. There was so much to think about and to consider I didn’t think we’d ever reach an agreement. Neither of us had ever even visited Louisiana so moving there would be a huge leap of faith.
In the end, we decided for the time being to live apart. This gives us both the opportunity to better ourselves in our careers, which will be beneficial for us as a couple. It also gives us time to figure out where we want to end up in the future. Joe is getting used to Louisiana and I’ve visited him once so far and plan on going again soon. Moving to Louisiana would be quite an adventure, but leaving friends and family wouldn’t be easy. It’s hard to know what will be best for us, but we’re keeping our options open.
Joe and I used to do everything together so being apart has been devastating. It has definitely tested our relationship, but ultimately has made us stronger as a couple.
When we do get to see each other we don’t take a single second for granted. We’ve learned to not let little things get in the way of what we ultimately want, which is to be with each other. Some days are harder than others but we try to remind each other of why we’re doing this and that being apart is only temporary.
Joe and I take things one day at a time and look forward to planning for the next time we get to see each other. Thinking about our wedding this October also helps us keep things in perspective.
Hopefully everything will work out for us so we can start our married life together in the same state!